Can Fat People Date Successfully Online?

Since I am pretty active on okcupid.com, I find myself constantly reading the forums and participating in discussions. I like reading the witty comments people come up with until a fat woman posts a thread whining about how no men ever show love for the thick and curvy. Time and again the woman that is whining is not a curvy woman nor a thick woman, instead she is plain fat. There is no way around it.

People can be completely delusional about their own bodies. I am sure you may have found yourself on a date you met online to discover that the person was much heavier in person that originally thought.

It should come as no surprise that men are quick to ridicule a woman for being fat and dating. Like they think if you are fat that you do not deserve love and happiness either. It does seem that the majority of men on online dating sites would not consider having a relationship with a fat woman. Sure, they will contact her and tell her she is beautiful but it is usually followed by a “hey what’s your yahoo messenger” or “We should hang out *wink wink*”. So basically fat chicks only get attention from men that think they are easy targets because certainly a fat chick is easy and will date and do anything just because she will take what she can get.

I even read a comment that made me laugh so hard last night which was “Even a fat chick would date a shorter man because they will take what they can get”. I jokingly call myself fat but to be honest; I am chubby or thick as some of you people would call it. I am 5′8″ on a good day and I am 30 pounds over weight. I still work out 5 days a week and watch my diet. I consider myself to be pretty. I have been told by several men both in person and online that I look like Eva Mendez. I am picky gosh darn it. Just because I am fat, thick or chubby; I am not willing to just date anyone like I am somehow desperate. I want a man who will know and love me for me and not just because of a number on the scale or a percentage of body fat.

My ex husband knew me and married me when I weighed 215 lbs and he did love me still when I had ballooned up to 280 pounds. Of course he paid me the most attention when I had dropped down to 171 pounds. And I am sad to say this but our sex life was 100x better when I was 171 pounds. The other added bonus was I turned more heads even when sporting a big fat wedding ring on my finger.

Men are physical creatures and God wired them to be attracted to a woman’s physical appearance. It sucks that most of the time women can overlook attractiveness or lack thereof and still fall for a man that treats her right and in some cases packs a thick wallet.

You ask me if fat people date successfully and I would have to say for the majority; no. Sadly a heavier woman will have a harder time catching the eye of an ideal mate when there are 101 thinner women around that will catch a man’s eye faster.

Fat people shouldn’t have to settle. You shouldn’t have to date a fatty because you are fat. You shouldn’t have to get stuck with a loser because no one else would date a fat person. In this cruel world, if you want to date online you need to lose weight. You don’t need to be anorexic but men prefer a woman to either be athletic or just a few pounds extra. I wish I was lying but its true. I’ve read enough of the fat girl threads on okcupid and majority of the men there would not enter a serious relationship with a fat woman.

The good news is, you can lose weight. The bad news is, you have to “fit in” in order to date successfully online.

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