“I need about 15 more minutes until I can leave”, I said as I frantically looked at my alarm clock and then another quick glimpse down at my bare feet.  Yup, going to definitely need to wear running shoes tonight.

“Ok, no problem. See you soon”, said the voice on the other line.

I managed to get done getting ready for my coffee date with Jason in no less than 18 minutes instead of the originally quoted 15. I sent him a final text that said I was leaving and would be there in a few. After I found parking and began to walk across the street my phone rang. I answered it and it was Jason again asking if I was there. I told him I was just crossing the street to the coffee shop and he said ok and that he would meet me out front. I saw a shaved headed, good looking man smile at me and started to walk towards me. I waved at him and he waved back. He greeted me with a big hug. He was handsome…really handsome.

I was kind of  taking a huge chance with him. For one, he did not post a very clear photo of his face so it was difficult to make out what his eyes looked like or if he had a smile; or even teeth for that matter since he was not smiling in his photos. He also wore a hat in every photo on his profile and listed his hair as brown so I was completely shocked to find that he had a shaved head. He was still cute.

He opened the door to the coffee shop for me and we looked over the menu for a few. He paid for my coffee and we started chatting right away. We sat at a little table for two and we had so much to talk about. There was never an odd moment of silence. We talked for a little over an hour and then it seemed as though the coffee shop was starting to close up on us. We walked out of the coffee shop and started walking a few feet away. At some point during the conversation of where to walk to, he pulled me into him quickly as though he was giving me a quick hug.

“Are you hungry?”, he asked.

“Yea, I was so nervous, I didn’t eat”, I replied with a chuckle.

“Nervous? You’re not nervous now are you?”

“No, not anymore”, I said with a smile.

“Do you like Sushi?”, he asked.

“I love Sushi”, I responded.

We walked into a little sushi restaurant and sat at a booth. We ordered and proceeded to have the most engaging conversations. He paid for dinner and when I offered to pay for mine he winked at me and said “You can get it next time”.

Once dinner concluded, he walked me to my car that was in a parking garage about 1/2 a block away. I looked up at him and told him “I had a great time meeting you and I’m not just saying that”. he pulled me in close to him again for a quick squeeze and said “Aww, you’re so sweet”.

Once we arrived at my car, he went to hug me goodbye and he kissed me on the cheek. I told him; “You know I am traditional so I won’t be calling you. So, if you’re interested, you will have to call me”.

With his body still turned towards me he took a few steps back and looked right at me in the eyes and said “I am definitely going to call you”.

It was the perfect first date! I admit, I was totally wrong with my expectations of my date from my first post about Jason here. Now, the waiting game of finding out if this will go anywhere. I’m not calling him Patti. I promise!

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I met Jeff last night at a pub in San Ramon, CA. It was a bit of a drive for me but I was ready to meet him. I don’t like getting too close to someone via chatting on Yahoo IM and he had even called me a few days ago and we spoke on the phone.

He did do something rather icky yesterday in which he shared with me a poem he wrote and I found it rather perverted and creepy. I still fail at seeing red flags early on and yet ignore them or justify why I should give him the benefit of the doubt.

I was to meet him at a pub and I accidentally drove to the wrong one. I ended up arriving at the one in Pleasanton, which by the way I had a really good looking guy checking me out there. I wanted to stick around to see if he would come up and talk to me since we had made some very obvious long eye contact. But I was off to meet jeff at the right location.

When we met, I had discovered he was not “athletic” (big shocker there) and that he was about 40 pounds heavier than he led me to believe. I’m find with dating men that have a bit extra weight (like myself) but I am not a fan of being misled.

There was no physical attraction for me. He was nice, a gentlemen and will probably make a really good husband and father for someone but just not for me.

I am a Gemini and apparently Gemini’s are the most superficial which is ironic because I do not think I am miss hotstuff but I just am looking for attraction to someone right away and it wasn’t there for me. maybe a big chunk of that was the dishonesty of the weight.

He walked me to my car and I gave him a hug. he asked me to text message him when I got home to let him know I was safe. I did and he requested that we chat on yahoo. I did and he wanted to know how I felt about the date. I was honest and told him the chemistry wasn’t there for me. I told him I felt really comfortable with him but it was a friends thing and nothing more. He said he was disappointed because he liked me but he understands you cannot force something that is not there.

On my drive home I called my sister to tell her about it and she told me “you are too picky!”.

I then called DE to tell him about the date. I started off telling DE that Jeff reminded me of my friend’s husband (which I am not attracted to at all) and he told me “Damn, you are too superficial”.

I was open to dating someone that didn’t state he was a Christian in his profile, a man that is older than I tend to go for and someone that works for an adult online website. All things that I should have turned away from. I wanted to give Patti’s advice a chance by not judging a person on paper but it just wasn’t there for me. Patti says “The penis does the picking”, well if I had a penis it would not have been excited by this date.

Well, this chick is still searching for her frog prince.

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I don’t want to jump the gun and its hard to not start planning out how things will go upon a first date. I do the things that most women do when they first start talking with someone new online. You know, you imagine coming home to him, you can imagine his face when he proposes to you and lays that big fat rock on your hand to announce to the world that you are off the market permanently. You imagine being pregnant with his child and shopping for your first home together.

I have been talking with Jeff, whom I met off of POF, for about a week now. I like him. There’s no denying it. We have yet to meet but from what I have learned from him, he has a lot of qualities I find very attractive. I think he will make a great father some day too. I think we could get along great and just be very happy. I’ve been thinking about what a future could be like with him but the thing I cannot break away from is the religious differences. I have purposely tried to bring up God in a casual manner like “I’ve just been asking God to help with this or that” and he just seems to listen with no remark on it. I do not know for certain if he even believes in God. I know that is something I cannot compromise on. I can deal with someone that maybe doesn’t feel like he is all that connected to God but still believes in Him. But I am pretty certain I could not be with someone that is an atheist. Even though DE is an atheist and an alcoholic, I have found myself attracted to his many other qualities and sometimes felt that if we ever got together that maybe I could overlook the atheist thing but deep down I would be fooling myself.

Patti has said numerous times that religion is not something you can compromise on and when matching she does her best to make sure the two are compatible on that plane. I am breaking her rules about even giving your phone number to a man that does not have your must-haves. Seeing how my #1 on my list was he must be a Christian, I am deliberately not following Patti’s advice. It’s hard. He seems like a good match. of course all of this is just happy-go-lucky images in my head. It may be another story at a face to face meeting. Maybe he wouldn’t be attracted to me or I wouldn’t be attracted to him and then all this confusion and imagining would be for nothing.

As I sit here, freezing to death at my desk while it pours like cats and dogs outside my gut feeling is telling me “Don’t do it. Break away before you get attached.” I don’t want to listen to the voice but I guess I will never know where he stands with God until I just ask him. Of course Patti suggests not to talk about religion right away so I need to find a subtle way to find out the answer to this.

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Ok so that title is misleading. I actually facebooked him first. I’m just excited that he facebooked me back. I was playing wink tag with a man on Cupid.com for about 3 weeks now. I had read over his profile a few times and thought he sounded like someone I really would be interested in knowing. he winked at me first, then I winked back. then he winked again like a week later as if to say “Hey, I’m still interested you silly woman. Read my profile again so you can see how to contact me for free”. So I winked back telling him through a preset response “I’m sorry I am not a member will you sign up?” As I am reading over his profile I noticed he snuck in his email address through a very clever method of talking about his hang out spots. So I emailed him and didn’t hear anything. Well several hours later I decided to  check for him on facebook. His email address was his full name and his name seemed rather uncommon so maybe I could find him. He was the only person with his name on facebook! I recognized his photo right away and explained that I decided to try him on facebook in case I messed up his email address.

A week went by with no response so I assumed he lost interest. Today he responded through facebook saying he was out of town for awhile and then we started exchanging messages. I sure hope he doesn’t get bored with me through email exchange so quickly. I know how that goes.

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I just returned from the record shortest coffee date I have ever had. It was not even 1 hour long. It was only a 50 minute meeting. All the signs looked good. He immediately told me I looked better in person than my photos. He bought me a coffee and then we sat down to talk. He pulled out my chair for me and I sat next to him. He turned his body towards me while we talked and the eye contact was pretty good. He smiled at me a lot. I think I may have killed the conversation. I asked him if he was a night owl and he said he no he goes to bed at about 9:00pm and then he about 2 minutes later he said “Actually I better get going. I’m getting really tired right now. I’m sorry”. I had a look of shock on my face but I said “Oh ok.” So we hugged goodbye which the hug he gave me was very grandma-like.

I guess he wasn’t into me. Too bad. I was very attracted to him. He did look a lot better in person than in his photos. I don’t want to be killing myself waiting by my phone the next few days to see if he send s me a message. I think the fact that the date was over so quick tells me it is not going anywhere.

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I ask of you; my fellow readers this simple question. Is it creepy to date someone with the same name as your ex? I decided to renew my membership at Match.com after a 2 year hiatus just because I got a discount off a 3 month subscription and I have definitely come to the conclusion from trying out free sites that pay sites are going to have men that are serious about finding love. No man is going to pay a monthly membership just to try and get some cheap sexy phone talk out of it. So if they are paying a monthly fee, you can guarantee they aren’t messing around.

Anyhow, lastnight a man named Lance contacted me. When I first saw his username which had “Lance” included in part of it, my first thought was “you’ve got to be kidding?!”. But he wasn’t and his name really is Lance. I actually am not concerned about what other people would think if we actually dated but I am concerned on how he would take it. Its pretty unusual to end up with someone that has the same name and especially that name. I have never met another Lance (although 3 yrs ago a Lance contacted me on a dating site and I quickly dismissed the idea because of his name).

This time I am not turned off by the idea that he has the same name because he seems to have so many qualities that I am drawn to. He seems real honest and kind. He looks nothing like my ex either. He is taller, blond with blue eyes and 2 years younger. So its not like I would be concerned with people thinking “Oh she’s just trying to get another Lance”. Did I actually just think and say that outloud? That’s crazy!

I called my two closest male friends today and spoke with another on IM about it. 2 out of the 3 think it is a total turn off and the other one says it would make no difference to him (his name is common though so it is likely to happen to him). 1 of them was totally against it and does not want me to even pursue him and to just move on because he thinks its really bad “ju-ju”. The two other men think I do need to tell him as soon as possible and feel it is best to do so in person so I can see his reaction. I agree that I should tell him in person. I am not sure if this is first date talk appropriate or not. But I wouldn’t hide it. I figure if we meet first adn then i tell him, perhaps chemistry will win him over versus something like this.

So…what do you think about this?

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Mike and I met for our first date tonight which was just coffee. We had an amazing connection and comfort level. About an hour into the conversation we held hands and locked hands for the next 1 1/2 hours. His eyes are the most amazing shade of blue and he has a smile that can make one’s heart melt.

The date was awesome! I had a wonderful evening with him. At the end of the date he asked if he made it to date #2 and I told him yes he did. We are planning date #2 but we’re not sure yet what to do. We kissed goodbye but it was short and sweet. I loved being hugged by him. He held me snugly and I felt safe.

He has already said he wants to see where this goes and I feel the same way. I haven’t had a connection like this in some time. So we shall see about all this.

I love Leos!

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