I ask of you; my fellow readers this simple question. Is it creepy to date someone with the same name as your ex? I decided to renew my membership at Match.com after a 2 year hiatus just because I got a discount off a 3 month subscription and I have definitely come to the conclusion from trying out free sites that pay sites are going to have men that are serious about finding love. No man is going to pay a monthly membership just to try and get some cheap sexy phone talk out of it. So if they are paying a monthly fee, you can guarantee they aren’t messing around.
Anyhow, lastnight a man named Lance contacted me. When I first saw his username which had “Lance” included in part of it, my first thought was “you’ve got to be kidding?!”. But he wasn’t and his name really is Lance. I actually am not concerned about what other people would think if we actually dated but I am concerned on how he would take it. Its pretty unusual to end up with someone that has the same name and especially that name. I have never met another Lance (although 3 yrs ago a Lance contacted me on a dating site and I quickly dismissed the idea because of his name).
This time I am not turned off by the idea that he has the same name because he seems to have so many qualities that I am drawn to. He seems real honest and kind. He looks nothing like my ex either. He is taller, blond with blue eyes and 2 years younger. So its not like I would be concerned with people thinking “Oh she’s just trying to get another Lance”. Did I actually just think and say that outloud? That’s crazy!
I called my two closest male friends today and spoke with another on IM about it. 2 out of the 3 think it is a total turn off and the other one says it would make no difference to him (his name is common though so it is likely to happen to him). 1 of them was totally against it and does not want me to even pursue him and to just move on because he thinks its really bad “ju-ju”. The two other men think I do need to tell him as soon as possible and feel it is best to do so in person so I can see his reaction. I agree that I should tell him in person. I am not sure if this is first date talk appropriate or not. But I wouldn’t hide it. I figure if we meet first adn then i tell him, perhaps chemistry will win him over versus something like this.
So…what do you think about this?
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