I met Jeff last night at a pub in San Ramon, CA. It was a bit of a drive for me but I was ready to meet him. I don’t like getting too close to someone via chatting on Yahoo IM and he had even called me a few days ago and we spoke on the phone.
He did do something rather icky yesterday in which he shared with me a poem he wrote and I found it rather perverted and creepy. I still fail at seeing red flags early on and yet ignore them or justify why I should give him the benefit of the doubt.
I was to meet him at a pub and I accidentally drove to the wrong one. I ended up arriving at the one in Pleasanton, which by the way I had a really good looking guy checking me out there. I wanted to stick around to see if he would come up and talk to me since we had made some very obvious long eye contact. But I was off to meet jeff at the right location.
When we met, I had discovered he was not “athletic” (big shocker there) and that he was about 40 pounds heavier than he led me to believe. I’m find with dating men that have a bit extra weight (like myself) but I am not a fan of being misled.
There was no physical attraction for me. He was nice, a gentlemen and will probably make a really good husband and father for someone but just not for me.
I am a Gemini and apparently Gemini’s are the most superficial which is ironic because I do not think I am miss hotstuff but I just am looking for attraction to someone right away and it wasn’t there for me. maybe a big chunk of that was the dishonesty of the weight.
He walked me to my car and I gave him a hug. he asked me to text message him when I got home to let him know I was safe. I did and he requested that we chat on yahoo. I did and he wanted to know how I felt about the date. I was honest and told him the chemistry wasn’t there for me. I told him I felt really comfortable with him but it was a friends thing and nothing more. He said he was disappointed because he liked me but he understands you cannot force something that is not there.
On my drive home I called my sister to tell her about it and she told me “you are too picky!”.
I then called DE to tell him about the date. I started off telling DE that Jeff reminded me of my friend’s husband (which I am not attracted to at all) and he told me “Damn, you are too superficial”.
I was open to dating someone that didn’t state he was a Christian in his profile, a man that is older than I tend to go for and someone that works for an adult online website. All things that I should have turned away from. I wanted to give Patti’s advice a chance by not judging a person on paper but it just wasn’t there for me. Patti says “The penis does the picking”, well if I had a penis it would not have been excited by this date.
Well, this chick is still searching for her frog prince.
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