Not this time

I have been single for nearly 2 1/2 years. Sure I date, but no one has given me that “this guy could be my next boyfriend” feeling. I have come to realize what has been happening with my dating. I jinx them! Yup, that’s right, I jinx the relationship before it can progress. How do I do this you might be asking?! Well it’s simple really. After only a few message exchanges or a phone conversation, usually after I feel a connection to the guy, I will start to daydream about being his girlfriend or even worse; being his wife. I will start the stupid grade school girlie stuff Mrs. Sara Hallet. The minute the last name clashes with my first name or has only an ok ring to it, I will start to feel less interested in the guy.

Even worse is if I think he has an odd first name. I actually had a guy interested in me a few months ago who’s name was Spinner. I kid you not, his real name was Spinner. I thought it was a joke because he happened to be a disc jockey, but no, he really was named Spinner by his parents. Then recently there was a man named Stewart. He was a nice guy but just no overall connection. but maybe it had to do more with the fact that his last name happened to be the middle name of my ex. (Which happens to be a very rare name). There was no way I was going to sport that last name as my married name….ever!

Back to my jinxing. Just about anytime a man has caught my eye and a part of my heart I will start to tell myself “what if he is the one?” Another mistake I make is I mention him too soon to friends or family, only to discover the date was a complete let down.

So I am going to take on a new approach. Don’t say a word! I will not tell anyone about this “great guy” I am meeting soon etc. I certainly won’t be envisioning him being my man! Nope, I am just gonna do the exact opposite and assume he is NOT it and that it will be a complete let down.

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