Since I am thoroughly convinced this year is my year to find love, I decided to be more active on the online dating site, okcupid.com. If you haven’t checked out this site, you really should. I have always loved that your matches are matched up according to how you answer questions and how you would want your partner to answer them. The questions can be on just about every topic since 90% of the questions are created by other okcupid users. Of course, some questions you may choose not to answer or you can also hide your answer from the public, which might be necessary in some cases since You are not allowed to explain why you answer a question the way that you did.
okcupid has some very interesting features. One is that you can see when someone viewed your profile and at what time it was. However, you cannot tell if someone read a message you sent to them. But I am really liking the rating match feature.
Matches by ratings:
I love this. This is my latest passtime for okcupid. You can go to the search section and put down everything you desire in a date such as height, smoker/non-smoker, ethnicity, religion or whatever then it will display potential dates that meet those requirements. Then you view the profiles that come up in the search and give them a star rating. If you rate a user a 4 or 5 and they also have rated you a 4 or 5 you get an email saying you match that you both find each other attractive for whatever reasons. I think this is sometimes better than sending a flirt because the ice has already been broken indirectly. He thinks you’re cute and you think he’s cute. So now you just have to decide who will contact first! lol
Two days ago, I had a very handsome younger man in Wyoming (25 yrs old) rated me a 4 or 5 and I did the same. So I got that email saying we matched based on rating. Well he emailed me right away and looking over his profile everything looked good. He was a 91% match for me based on how he answers questions. He is a virgin and that really didn’t bother me. I guess I assumed because he is a strong Christian that maybe he had strong convictions. Anyhow we were chatting through okcupid for a bit and then he asked to move the conversation to yahoo. I didn’t think anything of it at first but as soon as we moved to yahoo all of his questions to me had to do with my sexual experiences. Like he wanted to know how many partners I have had and how many were one night stands and of those, how many were after my husband.
He made me feel really uncomfortable but I answered them with total honesty. He didn’t seem to mind but he was all the more interested in the experiences. Then he proceeds to tell me how cute my face is and that he is turned on by me. Uh oh, here we go. He’s no different than all the other men on IM. He started to ask me if it bothers me that he is turned on by me. I tell him no but that I am not into cybering or anything like that. He doesn’t respond. The conversation is killed. then about 30 minutes later he apologizes for not being talkative. As soon as the conversation had moved to yahoo, I had totally lost interest.
This is not the first time I feel yahoo has killed interest for me which is why I should just stick to local men. I would rather exchange a few messages and just be like “let’s meet for coffee”. Yahoo IM can kill any sort of chemistry you thought was there.
On another note, DE said some more interesting stuff to me last night that just further confuses me on how I feel towards him. I am pretty sure he has no interest in me other than wanting to violate my girl parts but I find I am attracted to his intellect and personality. I mean I do find him physically attractive and I already not emotionally I am attracted to him. And the things I despise the most right now are that he smokes and drinks. Well he is on his road to quitting drinking. Today is his 3rd day of no alcohol and he seems to have gotten over the bad withdrawals yesterday. Anyhow he made a comment on how he would never talk bad about God if we were to have children. That he would support me going to church and taking the kids. He said he’s good at putting up a front and that he would go to show the kids and his family that he is a good boy. I find this confusing hat he would step back from his own convictions and opinions of God in order to please someone else. I am just not sure if he would really do as he says though.
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