I cannot even begin to count how many times younger men have messaged me on either a dating site, Myspace and yes; even my Youtube account with pure sexual intentions. My #1 pet peeve with 90% of the messages I get form men is that they just lay it out there on the table right from the gunshot. “Wow, you are sexy” or “You are hot!”.
I’ll say it again, I do not post “sexy” photos on my profile and its purely for this reason. I am tired of men just thinking that because I am a single mom and sometimes I maybe older than them; that I am easy prey or something. I know they just want to fulfill their MILF fantasies or whatever but I am not into that.
Last night I was messaged by a 26 yea old on Plenty of Fish (POF) and he started off like all the rest “You are soooo sexy. What are you doing tonight?” I mean c’mon! Like I’m just going to be swooned by his compliment and want to head out and meet him when I know nothing about him. Its just ridiculous.
Then about 2 hours later I was messaged on OKCupid and his messaged said “Wow! You are absolutely gorgeous.” I didn’t respond to him either.
Just once I would like to receive messages from men that say “Hey I like your profile and I love that you like to do _________ or ___________.” You know, show that there is more interest in me besides initial attraction. I want to be sexy and I do want men to be sexually attracted to me but I want more substance too.
I just started talking with an old friend online recently; we’ll call him “CC”, after a 8 month falling out period. He gives me pointers on losing fat and weight training. He’s not a personal trainer but he’s really fit and weight trains a lot. Anyhow, we were chatting in IM last night and he was watching one of my youtube videos and in this video I had a section where I was on the phone with DE. Anyhow, CC started asking a bunch of questions about who DE was and if I had romantic feelings for him. Then he just got downright blunt and asked if I had fantasized about being sexually intimate with DE. All signs of pure jealousy.
He then complimented me saying how pretty I am and that I shouldn’t settle. He next made a remark that threw me off. He said “I am surprised I am not in love with you”. Is that bad, is it good?
Then he started pushing me to call him. All these months where we got really close through talking several times a day on IM or whatever but we never took it offline. Now he wants to start talking on the phone?? I honestly don’t know if he feels threatened by the relationship DE and I have and wants the same or if he is trying to just get closer to me for obvious reasons of him having a crush on me.
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