I had not seen Shawn in nearly two weeks and it was absolutely killing us both. Fortunately I had to take my son up to his father’s on Friday so Shawn’s parents offered to let me stay the weekend at their home so that I wouldn’t have to drive back home on Friday evening and then back up again on Sunday.
His parents are wonderful people. Seriously, they are great! I arrived to their home Friday evening at about 8:30 pm. I had not eaten yet since I was unsure of plans with Shawn for the evening. His mom had made dinner and left some for me so I ate while Shawn sat with me and Christmas shopped for his sons on his phone.
I slept in Shawn’s room and in his bed while Shawn slept on the couch in the living room. Poor guy didn’t sleep good at all that night because earlier they had decided to use the living room fireplace even though they had not cleaned it out in over 10 years. The living room had filled with smoke and lingered for a bit.
Saturday morning I bonded with his 2 year old niece whom is currently being cared for by his parents. I read/entertained her while Shawn’s mom made breakfast. She is adorable! After breakfast we decided to get ready to go for a walk on the beach. His mom was invited to come with us but she said “I don’t want to be the third wheel, besides you are both kids-free, you need to enjoy your time alone and get to know one another”. It was very sweet of her although I seriously wouldn’t have minded her to come. After our walk, we came home to shower and get ready for our evening plans which included seeing a Living Nativity by a church in Santa Clara and then to visit Christmas in The Park in downtown San Jose. While Shawn was in the shower, I was doing my makeup in his bedroom and his mom came in to chat with me. She sat down on the futon and started telling me how she didn’t like his last girlfriend and asked if I had heard about the fight they had gotten into. Her main comment was that “My son just wasn’t happy with her. He was changing for her and losing himself. A mother knows when her child is unhappy and he just was”. I had shared with her how my mother also disliked my last boyfriend and how I wish I would have listened to her intuition. It was a nice woman-to-woman chat we had and I didn’t even tell Shawn about it.
We then went on with our plans to see the Living Nativity and then we went to Christmas in the Park. Christmas in the Park was insane. It was nearly impossible to find any parking and when we were finally on our way to see the attractions Shawn suddenly had to go to the bathroom and all that was available was 1 public toilet that is self cleaning just like the one featured in this video below. It cleans the entire bathroom after each use.
It takes 55 seconds to clean and you cannot interrupt the cleaning cycle. So we waiting in line for over 30 minutes just to pee! it was pretty darn ridiculous of the City of San Jose to do away with portable bathrooms like they usually have each year.
That night we got home pretty late so Shawn just slept on the futon in his room and I slept in his bed with the bedroom door wide open of course!
Sunday morning I woke up at about 7:00am and went into the living room and chatted with his mom a bit. We then got ready for church. Since his dad is a Pastor, it takes 30 seconds to walk to the church. I met a lot of the people from the congregation that were just thrilled to meet me because they saw me on Facebook etc. While we sat in the pews waiting for the service to begin Shawn’s mom leaned over and said “This is gonna be your first time hearing your future father-in-law preach! So exciting!” Shawn just repeated what she said and laughed. When his dad was ready to begin preaching he introduced me to the congregation, I thought that was incredibly sweet and hopefully it means I have made a good impression on his parents.
When it was time for me to leave later on in the afternoon, I went to give them hugs goodbye and they both told me to come back anytime and that I could even bring my son next time. It was really sweet. I enjoyed his parents thoroughly. That was probably one of my biggest fears because I have such a great relationship with my son’s grandmother (my ex’s mother) that I was fearful that my new in-laws someday may not be so cool and close with me but no worries there.
It looks like it’s going to be another two weeks until we see one another again though and that part I am not thrilled with! But Shawn said “Well make something workout so it won’t be that long”.
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