I am probably not the best source for giving advice on being successful in love but I certainly have a lot of say on how not to be successful. So with the experience I have from relationship mistakes, I can speak on behalf of the things that do not work and so the opposite must work!
My friend Marna recently met a man and just after a few phone call conversations she was really starting to fall for him. They met a few days later and had the perfect first date. Which led to a 2nd date which led to making a full on commitment to be boyfriend and girlfriend. Fast forward 2 weeks later and they start disagreeing on many subjects. More over, they were having conflicts on biblical views. It was getting to the point that they were no longer having friendly discussions but they were full blown arguments that went from phone conversations to the coldness of drawn out emails that had scripture references spread all over the place. Marna simple had enough of the disagreements. “It’s like he has to win me over to his way of thinking or else!”
It’s a shame that they had started off so beautifully together. They had a lot in common, similar goals in life and really felt they had found their other half. All gone down the drain due to one week of constant arguing. Things got really ugly between them more so due to his words and actions. He started hitting her below the belt criticizing her way of thinking and then calling her a drama queen because she ended the relationship and didn’t want to discuss it further. The damage had been done and he had shown his true colors and this only further confirmed to her that she made the right decision to leave the relationship.
It doesn’t have to be this way for couples. You don’t have to throw away everything, simply because your significant other doesn’t agree with your opinions. The bottom line is that a relationship can only be successful when you can respect one another’s differences and agree to disagree.
Marna’s relationship ending stirred up this conversation with John and I. He had started “You and I agree to disagree, right?” I replied with “Of course!”. So far we have a few opinions that differ and that’s ok. We can respect one another’s opinions and carry on.
There is no need to harp on your significant other and try to win them over to your beliefs. Doing so will only create a divider between you both. So if you really value your significant other and want to make things work, just agree to disagree!
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“They had a lot in common, similar goals in life and really felt they had found their other half. ”
No, they didn’t. I’d say it takes months to know that, not a couple of weeks. That’s where a lot of women go wrong. Imagining that he’s The One when you barely know him. Getting disappointed and then DOING IT AGAIN WITH SOMEONE ELSE!
The rest is a redherring. It’s not looking at the real issue.